He will almost always put you first, even if it means changing his plans or stepping out of his comfort zone. Love means giving in. It looks different than what you see on TV. But the command to love one another can be called new for two reasons: First, it points to a new example of love, that of Jesus' own life. People who truly love one another don't want to hurt them. Disliking someone's taste in music, for example, does not mean that you cannot love them. 1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is … We see his love most fully manifested in his death on the cross (compare Jn 13:1; 1 Jn 3:16; 4:9-10). Men being men, they can be cautious about showing any behavior that can be perceived by others as weakness. Love means letting yourself go. 12:10). It looks different than what you hear in the hallways at school. In this sermon Pastor Linn Winters opens a new sermon series, Selfless. Video recorded at Chandler, Arizona. Putting your mate first is what Paul meant when he said, “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another” (Rom. Love has deep empathy. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and His love is perfected in us. Love is the loftiest preference of one person for another, and spiritually Jesus demands that this sovereign preference be for Himself (see Luke 14:26).Initially, when “the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit” (), it is easy to put Jesus first. The answer to that question, is that love looks different. Love has empathy. The word “forgive” means to release or let go of a thing or to put it this way.for giving it away. He teaches us that love is more than a feeling, it should be an action. Love that leaves is not lost; it will find you again someday, perhaps when you least expect it or maybe when you really want it to. After all, if we are called to truly love one another – that means we must see past outer appearances, we must see past the little annoying behaviors of others, and we must see past the awkwardness of new situations. "When you hurt, I hurt." Romans 13:8 Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law. They want them to feel good. Love doesn’t play by anyone else’s rules. 3. In many cases, having differences allows your love to grow, as you share and teach each other parts about yourself that the other person never knew. 16. As such, making sacrifices for your happiness is one way a man demonstrates his love for you. The word preference means to take the lead in loving others. (1 Corinthians 10:24) For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Galatians 5:14) Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others. In this first message he examines what the command to love one another really looks like in practice. Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another person's shoes and see a situation from his/her point of view. He shows vulnerability. The kind of love described in this new commandment was so essential, Jesus used it as a sign of His true disciples: “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another” (verse 35). Love, although it may fade, never gives up on you. True love, the way God meant it, looks way different than the way we see it portrayed. This doesn’t mean bringing it up over and over again but giving up your right to be right which means we are to be “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Eph 4:32). Love is an indefinite thing to most of us; we don’t know what we mean when we talk about love. 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